iving in LA is not easy. Even when you have the life that you’ve always envisioned – the one with the ideal career, sought-after car, and home in the perfect neighborhood – even if you have the relationship that you thought you’d always dreamt of having, something inside you can still feel unfulfilled… and that, if nothing else, is totally confusing.
I mean, why aren’t you fulfilled, right? Why are you anxious? Why do you continue to seek out more – more money, more attention, more sex, more love, more whatever? You’ve checked off all the boxes on your proverbial list, and you still don’t feel completely successful, you’re still anxious, and there are moments where you think you might even be depressed. And the worst part about it is that there is this underlying guilt behind it. Since you have most things you thought you’d ever want, and you know that most people would kill to be in your position, how can you complain? So, you don’t. You just hold it in. You just suffer in silence, you struggle on your own, and you continue through your “perfect” life feeling anything but perfect.
You keep all your thoughts bottled up inside and you walk around with a smile on your face, even though you’re unfulfilled and constantly wishing you can share your desires so you don’t feel so isolated. You might have a friend or a partner that you share some things with, but you don’t want to burden them all the time… and that feels so lonely. But you’re not alone!
So many men and women – Executives, professional athletes, creatives, and successful moms and dads are dealing with the same identity issues that you are. And all you need is a place to share what you’ve been experiencing – a place to be honest about the thoughts that ruminate in your head – a person to help you process why it is you feel so unfulfilled when you have so much.
I can be that person for you!
Working with Dr. Ron
Working with me is more than fixing the symptoms that are complicating your life right now. We’ll do that, and it’ll be a priority. But we’ll do so much more than that together.
Traditional therapists tinker with your thought patterns, dig into your childhood, and hint around what they think is best for you. Working with me, however, involves a psychology-based performance maximization process. We would take my decade + of academic and psychotherapeutic psychology experience coupled with my 30 years of professional experience to help direct you toward a successful, fulfilled life.
In my early 20s, I moved to the Caribbean to work in the vacation retail industry. By the time I was 30, I had owned a multi-million-dollar jewelry company with multiple locations, dozens of employees that spanned across various cruise and vacation destinations. Additionally, I founded a marketing company that serviced business in the cruise industry. This was a perfect amalgamation of a means to understanding people and businesses.
Even with the lucrative and exciting businesses I created, I found that I was unfulfilled, and decided to make a move away from those businesses into the field of psychology. Master’s degrees and a PhD later, I was able to work as a CA Marriage and Family Therapist and a National Psychologist.
After more than a decade in this field, my client base has grown to include some of the most renowned actors and producers in Hollywood, the most acclaimed professional athletes (LA Lakers, LA Dodgers, and US Olympians), and the world’s most successful business- men and women (including millionaire and billionaire founders and C-Suite executives). These clients travel the world and are often based in various cities around the country and the world. Sadly, the restrictions imposed on my licenses to practice traditional psychotherapy outside the states in which I was licensed, in part, lead me to voluntarily relinquish my license to begin my practice as a “Psychology-Based Life, Love, and Professional Performance Coach.”
Additionally, I have found the most significant benefits within the world of psychedelic psychology. Everything from Ketamine to MDMA to Psilocybin have been researched by the most distinguished peer-reviewed panels that have found overwhelming benefits of these medications. I have thousands of hours of experience and training in the Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy space along with training and certification by the US-sanctioned Multidisciplinary Association of Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) and others in the use of MDMA and psilocybin in psychotherapy. Sadly, the use of these medications are highly regulated, and even those of us who are officially trained cannot practice freely under our licenses. This is yet another reason why I have volunteered to relinquish my license in route to better serve my clientele.
Feeling Better Right Now
So, if you’re not sleeping well or eating healthily, we’ll get on correcting that – we’ll help you refocus your attention on the thoughts and behaviors to best alleviate the issues that are overwhelming you right now. If you can’t control your anger or the pressures from work are carrying into your personal life and disrupting your relationships, we’ll fix that right away. If you find yourself sabotaging current or prospective romantic, professional, or personal relationships, we’ll fine-tune and adjust your behavioral patterns to get you interacting in a way that is most beneficial to you and your future. And if you’re trying to manage a life of addictive substances or behaviors, we’ll work to ensure that you are equipped with the tools to eliminate them from your life.
Feeling Better Forever
But together and most importantly, we’ll spend time looking into the meanings behind and underneath what you’re feeling and thinking. These are the root causes that, when addressed, will not only offer you relief from your struggles, but should help you understand where they are coming from, why they are there, and how to keep them from ever coming back.
You see, relieving stress and behavioral disruptions makes life easier in the moment and helps you get your life back on track. But if you never analyze the root causes, they will just come back again and again.
This perspective of psychology believes in a bottom-up approach. If we understand what’s holding you back from its root, it will alleviate the core of the problem, and not merely the symptom-manifested result (like anxiety or depression) on which traditional psychotherapy focuses.
We will work together to create a happy, healthy, relational life that brings you deep joy. Tens of thousands of hours of psychology-based performance coaching with people just like you and extensive clinical research as a psychological academic has provided me with the unique ability to help you delve deep into the implicit, buried issues that keep you from maximizing your potential, unblocking your creative and professional flow, and embracing who you truly are.
I know it sounds overwhelming, but we can make sense of it all.– Ron Gad
Psychology-Based Performance Coaching for C-Suite Professionals
Reaching your goals and managing your career is hard enough, but doing it in high-profile settings can be so overwhelming. There is so much stress involved in becoming the professional you dreamt of being. You’ve been working incredibly hard to enter your field, climb the proverbial latter, and shimmy your way into a specialty or position that feels just right. All the while, you’ve been dealing with the pressures set for you – by society, your family & friends, and most intensely, are the expectations you’ve set on yourself. All you want is to break free from what you “should” be doing and what other people “need” you to do… just so you can get to a place where you find real, honest fulfillment in what YOU want to do.
You don’t need to let those pressures control you. You don’t need to feel the weight of being everything to everyone. And you certainly don’t need to go through it alone. I get those pressures and the expectations and the limitations and all the Bullshit that keeps you from being happy with what you do and feeling fulfilled as you do it… even when you’ve attained so many professional accomplishments.
This kind of work for professionals will help you get to a place where you can be free, be connected, and feel successful in what you do and the things you’ve done. It seems so easy, doesn’t it? Just revel in your accomplishments and acknowledge your success. But it isn’t. The hardest thing is actually understanding what happiness is – what success is. And I’m not talking about what Forbes Magazine says it is or your parents or your friends; I’m talking about your own, personal definitions. You, me, us together, will help you make sense of what actually makes you happy. We’ll create the space for you to define your vision of success. And then, we’ll carve your path toward it.
Stop struggling to enjoy your life. Enough with the long days that don’t bring you any satisfaction. It’s time to make things happen. It’s time to really find the joy in what you do and who you are.
I bring an ideal blend of professional experience and psychological knowledge. By the time I was 22, I was managing 10 locations, over 100 employees, and overseeing $50 million in revenue. By the time I was 30, I owned my own company with similar locations, employees, and revenues, and struggled with the psychological stresses of being a young millionaire entrepreneur. Realizing that financial accomplishments do not equate to fulfillment, led me to leave the business world and begin the long road to becoming a National Psychologist. Combining my entrepreneurial knowhow with a doctorate in psychology allows me to help Billionaire clients work their way toward true, holistic fulfillment.
I have been fortunate enough to help dozens of multi-millionaire and billionaires see themselves as more than the commas in their bank accounts. I have worked with so many uber-wealthy professionals to find their true identities, manage their working relationships, and feel comfortable with their work-life balance. I have this incredibly unique history of professional success and psychological depth that the average therapist and consultant does not have. And I can help you too!
Psychology-Based Performance Coaching for Professional Athletes
The pressures of professional athletics are immense and intense. It’s impossible to get out there and bear your soul to a world audience without feeling the vulnerability of your entire life – you feel all the criticisms that came before and all that you imagine coming. Getting beyond the noise to achieve your natural talents is what we would do together.
This kind of work for athletes of your caliber is not about the Xs & Os, it’s all about getting your mind to quiet the outside noise and trust that you are who you need to be – that you have the skills and the knowhow – you just need to find the self-belief to maximize. That’s what I will bring out in you.
That’s only half the problem. Suddenly, you’re making millions of dollars and people are looking at you differently, and expecting things from you.People are looking at you to support them, to seduce them, to whatever them. They have stopped seeing you for who you are, and now they see you as what you are… a millionaire athlete. This is so unfair and so difficult to manage.
Without even realizing it, you are tempted to gamble on the plane, sleep with random partners, and invest in a venture you’ve been guilting into funding. You need a psychology-based approach to help you understand these kinds of influences and temptations in your life.
Psychology-Based Performance Coaching by A Creative, For A Creative
The pressures of entertainment are immense and intense. It’s impossible to get out on stage and bear your soul to an audience without feeling the vulnerability of your entire life – you feel all the criticisms that came before and worse, you’re actually living up to the expectations of your friends, your family, and the high expectations that you’ve set for yourself.
And what about the complexity of identity? Who are you meant to be in the creative world? When you’ve been working on a show for so long, and your time on the show ends, it must be so complicated. Understanding that you are so much more than just a role or just a writer or just a person within a show, sounds so easy… but it’s such a deep concept – and you need someone who understands its complexities. The identity in and around the entertainment industry require a nuanced approach – a specialized approach specifically for creatives.
When you’ve been a starving artist for so long, and you’ve associated with that identity, it’s difficult to understand who you’re supposed to be once you’re… well, not struggling in that same way anymore. As a creative and as an artist, identity is everything. And when you identify as a ‘starving artist’, that isn’t starving anymore, you need to find a way to redefine yourself. Just because you’re not a struggling artist anymore, doesn’t mean you don’t struggle with being an artist, and it doesn’t mean that you aren’t struggling with your life. It’s a tough process that can feel very lonely; people just don’t understand that it’s hard to find the meaning of life once you’ve found success… but it can be.
You don’t need to go through this alone. I can be there for you.
Writer’s block is a real thing. I have worked with so many people just like you who have had tremendous success, I mean huge Broadway, Hollywood, and television successes, only to find themselves looking at a blank page. It’s way too much pressure to handle on your own. And what’s worse, the longer it goes, the harder it is to break through.
The way through these blocks is not as hard as you might think, but it does take a depth hand in walking you through. Sometimes it’s as easy as talking through the insecurities that you haven’t really faced; other times, it is a bit more embedded and requires some external assistance from something like Ketamine, which repairs neurons and creates a neuroplasticity that allows for an ”unstuckness” that will help you break free from you block.
I’m a writer at heart; it’s just what I love to do. I’ve written a few things that had some acclaim, they even got published back in the day of literary magazines, and I thought about making a career in it…
Alas, I seem to be more suited to help writers and other artists than to be a working artist myself. But it’s in my bones; I know what it’s like to feel the art within me. I get the draw to incorporate creativity, the need to live the life of an artist, and I understand what it means to feel fragmented when you are not being creative, because you are a creative.
Life is not as simple and as straightforward as it might seem. Things don’t just happen on one clear-cut level – there are multiple symbolic levels to everything. And as creatives, we get that. If you’re able to see beyond the literal reality of things and see the symbolic in what’s happening in your life, then you can gain insight into the pieces that you’ve been missing.
Psychology-Based Performance Coaching for Creatives is about looking for the symbols that are hiding in plain sight and making sense in them.
Relationship and Couples Performance Coaching
Making sense of yourself is hard enough, but trying to understand your partner, your relationship, and the ways you struggle as a couple is even more challenging. There are times when you lay in bed and look over feeling like you don’t even recognize the person sleeping by your side and times when you wonder where the passion went, where the connection went, and where the intimacy has gone. Of course, other times, you remember what drew you to your partner and you’re reminded of all the wonderful things that you’ve been through together and the love that is so deeply a part of your connection. Being torn about your relationship is understandable, and at some point, most people struggle with connection, communication, and intimacy… but it is extremely difficult to pinpoint the root of the struggle and to know where to even start when you want to fix it.
Relationship and couples performance coaching is about finding tangible approaches to fix the root of the disconnect that is causing distance and bickering and even moments of hatred. The real work involves a process of insight and understanding into the personal and joint identity that longs to be seen, heard, and understood. Oftentimes, as couples grow, there is a tendency to grow differently. And that’s normal. But it doesn’t have to mean that you’re growing apart.
I know that there may be a part of you that just wants to cut loose and run away. But there is also that part that longs to rekindle what brought you together in the first place. Working with couples has its challenges, no doubt, but the joy of creating the space for you and your partner to work on hearing, seeing, and loving one another again is priceless.
Fight the urge to run away. Don’t get caught in the storyline that your relationship is lost, that you could never understand each other again, that you can never bring back the intimacy that has been lost. Put in the effort to find a way to see your partner and be seen in the relationship. Work toward understanding what you need and what is needed from you. Regain that love, the intimacy, and the connection that has been lost. Rebuild your relationship.
Addiction is More than a Disease
Managing addiction and addictive behaviors is always more complicated than people assume. You’re constantly hearing people suggest that you “just do that a little less” or “just stop at one drink” … “it’s not that big a deal,” they say. But you and I both know that it’s not that easy. It is a big deal, and no matter how hard you’ve tried, you have finally realized that it is more than just about the drink, the drug, or the behavior. There is something inside you that cannot stop. There is a feeling that compels you to have another or to do it again. And you want to stop. You just can’t.
You are not alone in this. Millions of people around the world are dealing with various vices that help them escape from the anxiety, depression, and day-to-day stressors in their lives. And managing those is the key to Long-Term Recovery. In order to really get your life back on track, you need to dig deep, and see what it is that is driving you to escape. The alcoholism or workaholism or sex addiction you’re experiencing is not the problem… It is a symptom.
Of course, there are things you can do to ensure that you work less, or smoke less pot, or watch less porn, but why are you doing it? That is the question that we can delve into in order to help you achieve that long-lasting relief that you’ve longed to have. Much like anxiety or depression, addiction is caused by a deeper-rooted challenge that you have likely been dealing with most of your life. And together, we will help you get to the bottom of it.
The work for Addiction and Long-Term Recovery is about understanding what’s troubling you. The process is about noticing your patterns and working to help you understand what’s creating the need for you to escape through those addictive patterns. In order to do this work, you need to have some semblance of control over your addiction. It isn’t really possible to do if you’re drunk or stoned all the time. But even when you’re able to manage the addiction, you’re only half-way there. Now, with me, we can help you understand yourself and your addictive tendencies better so that you can really maintain and enjoy a life beyond the bounds of addiction.
Psychology-Based Performance coaching for Therapist
People have no idea what it’s like to be a clinician – especially one in and around Los Angeles. You finally made it through grad school and all the required hours, and then you get past the anxiety around the licensing exams, only to find out that clinical work is not like anyone told you it would be. Who knew you would have to be a small business owner? No one taught you any of that in school. And while they may have tried their hardest to help you understand the vicarious trauma that transfers from each client to you, you had no idea that it would feel like this.
You need a place to process everything that you’re experiencing. You need someone who understands what it’s like to carry the weight of all the struggles your clients unload on you. Your friends and family try (if they try), but they just cannot fathom the emotional intensity that saddles you every time you enter a session. And very few can comprehend the lingering nature of our field. But I do.
Clinicians like you need to be able to process the unique stress that comes with psychotherapeutic work. You need a place to discuss what’s triggering you, how you’re affected by it, and ways to separate your own history from your clients’. This kind of work for therapists is imperative for clinicians. You need to be able to separate your own stories, your own trauma, your own past, from the ones you hear about in your office. And together, we will help you do that.
Additionally, traditional therapy for therapists stops short of being able to assist you in balancing the clinical and professional components of psychotherapy. It is not just about emotional regulation; rather, our work together will be about professional identity and success. I have built multiple entrepreneurial triumphs, and I can help you do the same!
The Space You Need Is Right Here
All you need is the space to dive down deep, past the common, everyday life experiences, so that you can start seeing who you really are. You don’t have to be alone as you struggle with intense life issues. I can help you on your journey toward figuring it all out – toward figuring yourself out.
Don’t wait. You owe it to yourself to email now, or call me at (888) 494-7788 to schedule your free consultation session. Together, we can help you make sense of what really needs to happen for you to experience the true feeling of satisfaction that you deserve.
We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.– Kurt Vonnegut